Healing From Trauma & Building Your Legacy in Love

To be honest, this isn’t the kind of story I usually pause for. Most times, wedding trends or celebrity posts scroll right past me without much notice. But this one lingered. Maybe it was the colors, maybe it was the words spoken, or maybe it was the way the story kept appearing on my screen until I finally took a closer look.

What I stumbled across was the wedding of two rappers, names unfamiliar to me, music I’ve never heard and may never listen to. Yet, their union sparked something in me, a reminder of how love has the power to heal, to restore, and to create a legacy beyond pain.

The first thing I noticed was the groom in a powder pink suit. It wasn’t really my style, but it also wasn’t my business, after all, it wasn’t my wedding. I glanced at it and kept scrolling. Later, though, I came across another clip of him crying as his bride walked down the aisle. That moment touched me deeply. There was something raw and real in his tears that made me pause. That’s when I leaned in.

From Trauma to Love

The bride made a statement that stood out: she said many of the people in that room came from trauma, and to exchange the energy of love in that space felt liberating. That, I understood. Because love in the face of brokenness is healing. To create an atmosphere where others can feel safety, joy, and hope when they’re used to pain, that is powerful.

The groom’s words also carried weight. He said this moment was bigger than the internet or a viral headline, it was about breaking generational curses.

In a culture where absent fathers and broken families often dominate the narrative, those words struck deep.

Marriage: More Than Baby Mamas and Baby Daddies

Too often in our culture, especially in rap, relationships are reduced to situationships, “baby mama” drama, and broken bonds. But there is something deeply honorable about a man choosing to turn the woman he loves into his wife, not just a mother of his children, but his covenant partner. There is something sacred about a man deciding he doesn’t just want to be a baby daddy but a husband and father who builds a home, creates stability, and leaves a legacy.

Scripture reminds us: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). From the very beginning, this was God’s plan, that marriage would be the union where two lives become one, where family is established, and where love finds its covering. And again, “This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church” (Ephesians 5:32). Marriage isn’t just romance, it is reflection. It mirrors the covenant between Christ and His people.

The Weight of Covenant

I don’t come from a broken home. My parents have been married for 45 years. Both sets of my grandparents were married. My great-grandparents as well. All but one of my siblings are married. Marriage runs deep in my bloodline, it is strong in my family. But I know that’s not the case for everyone, especially within the Black community.

And within rap culture, marriage is rarely celebrated. Yes, we’ve seen high-profile unions, Cardi B and Offset come to mind but even that is now dissolving in a messy and public way. Which is why seeing this young couple, deeply in love, publicly committed, and grounded in the language of healing and covenant, feels refreshing. I can only pray that their union lasts and thrives.

Why Marriage Matters

Marriage is not “just a piece of paper.” It is covenant before God. It is protection, stability, and legacy.

It grants legal benefits, healthcare rights, inheritance, decision-making in crisis. But it also grants spiritual blessings, favor from God, unity of purpose, and the ability to create something that outlives you. “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22).

Marriage is where love matures into legacy. It is where healing becomes heritage. It is where cycles are broken, and blessings begin.

A Prayer for Their Union

And so, though I may not follow their music or their style, I find myself inspired by their love. I pray their covenant lasts. I pray their family flourishes. I pray their son grows up watching what love looks like when it’s steady, faithful, and sacred.

Because at the end of the day, what touched me wasn’t the suit, the colors, or even the trend, it was the reminder that love, when rooted in covenant, heals trauma, breaks curses, and builds legacies.

May we all honor marriage as God intended: not as a fleeting arrangement, but as a lifelong covenant that blesses generations. ✨